Negative Thinker?

 WAYS TO AVOID OURSELVES FROM BEING A NEGATIVE THINKER

Have you ever feel stress and cannot control your emotions during that moment? For sure everyone has gone through this situation. Of course, we feel so bad and difficult to control our emotions. Before that, do you guys know what does it mean by negative thinking? Negative thinking means a thought process where people tend to find the worst in everything that can cause stress, sadness and worry over the time. I believe that everyone will have this kind of thinking due to various factors. But, when you always being a negative thinker it may harmful to yourself because if you cannot control your emotions it maybe lead to depression. Sometimes it will help us to be a positive person in the future where are manage to find the solution to cope with the problems. So, let’s move on to the purpose of this speech. There are three ways to avoid ourselves from being a negative thinker which are try to identify the real problems, know ourselves better and express our feelings through writing. For me, everyone should apply these ways to avoid ourselves from being a negative thinker.

Firstly, try to identify the real problems that we have. In any situations or problems that we have it is a compulsory for us to identify the main factors causing the problems to happen. Talking about a negative thinker, usually the individual is an overthinking person that may lead to stress. Finding the main factors of the problems are important before we manage to find the best solution to handle and deal with it. Then, we can start to fixed up everything. Think wisely and make some reflection about ourselves also help to find on the problems that we have. Maybe it happen because of ourselves or others. When having a problem no matter how big and difficult it is, try to figure out ways or the person that may help us to solve it. But, if you still failed to find out the solutions try to let them out by talking about the problems over the person close to us such as parents and friends. Ask them for some advices then its time to look for that silver lining. Try to see the negative elements in a different way and focus on the positive elements. 

Secondly, we should know ourselves better before we want to handle with the problems. Knowing ourselves here means we have to discover our capability to cope with the problems. Different people have different method to cope and solve their problems. Some people are comfortable to share with others but some of them prefer to keep it by themselves. That’s the reason why we have to know our capability to find the suitable ways to handle the problems and avoid ourselves from being a negative thinker. According to Noam Sphancer (2010), accept and greet bad feelings are important so that we can cope and control our emotions. It is true that we must accept the negative element but do not exceed the limits. On the other hands, do not try to deny the negative feelings because it can be a toxic positivity to us. When we already know our capability there is a chance to get the best solution to overcome the problems. For example, we can do our hobby and spend time with our beloved because it will allow our mind to wander from the problems.

Next, another effective ways can be used  is expressing our feelings through writing or known as journaling method. According to Beth Jacob (2005), journaling method is the best thing to know our feelings. As I mention earlier, certain people prefer to keep their problems by their own so this is the best method for them to write everything about their feelings or problems. This method we can do by writing down everything about our problems in a piece of paper. Right after that we crumple the paper up and throw it away. This way is really effective because when we threw away the paper we will had more positive self image of ourselves after a few minutes. It helps us to become more better. Some people said something quick that you can do physically can improve your mental state and why not we try this method we have any problems later. Besides, we can writing everything in a notebook and make it as a diary. This method is so easy whereas we just need a pen and a piece of paper to help us feel more better. 

As a conclusion, whatever problems or difficulties that we have to facing with, we have to find the solution before it getting worst. Just to highlight all the important points in this speech here are some ways that we can use to avoid ourselves from being a negative thinker which are we should try to identify the real problems that we have. Then, we also should know ourselves better before try to cope and solve the problems also can use the writing method to express our feelings so that we get to know the right way to balance between our positive and negative emotions.